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He wants to buy a house but wants to wait on kids and marriage?
My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and are deeply in love. We have decided to take advantage of the real estate record lows in our area and buy a home together. My only problem with things is that he wants to wait till his 30's to have kids and I want them with in the next couple of years as well as marriage. I am 26 and he is 24 and I currently only have about a 50% chance of being able to conceive naturally now because of a medical condition and in my 30's it will go to about 20%. It's a very big deal to me and he is really set on waiting because he thinks "life stops" once kids are in the picture. I am scarred I am going to resent him if I loose my chance due to waiting and I am having a hard time putting my dreams on hold because he has peter pan syndrome going on.
It sounds like you are resenting him already. If you aren't getting what you need from a relationship you simply have to leave it. You don't have the same goals and forcing someone to have kids when they don't feel they are ready is a good way to get them to resent you. I would think long and hard before buying a house with him if marriage and kids are your number one priority...don't want to get stuck with a mortgage with someone that isn't making you happy. You have to decide if you are willing to wait and try when he is ready, or just move on and find a guy who wants kids sooner.
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